Dear Eupheme is the CHS version of Dear Abby. Eupheme was a common name in ancient Greece and it means well-spoken, articulate, and eloquent. For those not familiar with the Dear Abby concept, it is an advice column based on anonymous questions asked by readers. Submit your questions below. Newest responses will be at the top.
I’m a freshman and I haven’t been able to make a lot of new friends so far. What are ways that I can meet new people? -Ready to Make Friends
Dear Ready To Make Friends.
One of the easiest ways to make friends is to join a sport or a club! You will be able to find people who are interested in the same stuff as you are. Another way to make friends is just by talking to people. Say hi to the mutual friends you have in classes. Ask what their Instagram or Snapchat is. Search for common interests, so you can relate to each other and talk about your hobbies. Be open and willing to talk to new people, and put in an effort to create new relationships.
My friends have invited another person into our group, and I’m afraid they are going to ditch me. It’s not like I don’t like her or anything, I just don’t want to be left out, or excluded. What should I do?
Dear Feeling Nervous,
In this situation, I would advise you to talk to your friends about your feelings. Tell them that you feel nervous this new person might take your place in the group. If they really are your true friends, they will assure you that this person won’t take your place. One other thing I recommend is inviting your friend group, and the other person to hang out at your house, so you show your friends that you are trying to get along. By hanging out with the new person, you might find that you enjoy their company, and want to be better friends with them. Keep an open mind, and don’t be exclusive.
Finals week is so stressful. Do you have any advice or tips that helps lessen the constant stress and the verge of a mental breakdown?
Dear Cannot Relax,
Finals week is very stressful, I agree. Here are some ways you can relax your mind and body; Exercising is a great way to relieve stress, because it releases endorphins in your body that calms you down, and clears your mind. Taking Baths are another way to help reduce stress. Bath Bombs are amazing for people of all genders. So are bubble baths. Just pop some of your favorite smelling bath bombs or bubble baths into the tub and just relax. Play light music, read a book, draw, do anything to help you calm down. Drinking lots of tea and hot water is great for your health and relax you. Science actually shows that drinking sugary drinks or coffee when you are stressed actually makes you more stressed. Calm down your senses by drinking some warm teas or hot water. It will relax you and clear your mind.
I’m very broke. My parents used to give me a monthly allowance, but they say that because I am older, I need to find a way to get money for myself. I have some money left from holidays, but I find myself buying random things for no reason! It’s like I can’t stop blowing money! How can I get money and stop spending as much?
Dear Very Broke,
Some ways to get extra money is by doing additional jobs for our parents to see if you can earn money, offering to babysit, mow lawns, take care of pets, and some other jobs you can do for people you know. One last way you can make money is by going and applying for an actual job. It may seem daunting and scary, but it is a good way to make money, and you will get more experience you can include on your resume. The best way is to save your money is by putting half of it into a bank account, or somewhere safe where you cannot easily access it. I know the cravings of buying flip flops with artificial grass on them or other weird items but just think about all the cool useful things you could buy if you save up your money. Practice self-control, if you know you can’t stop spending, have your friends or family prevent you from buying things you don’t need. Leave your money at home when going to a place that might tempt you.
Dear Eupheme: I am a freshman this year, and I’ve noticed that grades are more important now than they were in middle school. How can I keep from being completely overwhelmed? -Dazed and Confused
Dear Dazed and Confused,
It’s a well-known fact that the transition between middle school and high school is startling and eye-opening. Colleges will look at your grades and your cumulative GPA, which your freshman year grades have an influence on. Therefore they are more important than middle school. When adjusting to the high school environment, it is important to not become overwhelmed with the pressures you may have. In addition to classes and homework, you might play sports, be part of a club or other extracurricular activity. If you being to feel like the pressure is too much and you begin to slip, always go to your teachers, they are here to help you! It’s crucial to iron out study habits early, so you are not scrambling later in your high school career. This includes not procrastinating!! (I do it all the time and it always bites me later). There is a large portion of students that let the failures of their freshman year impact their entire secondary education, and some students end up dropping out because of it. Just remember that if you are struggling, you have resources and people who are willing to help you succeed.